Hi, which thoughts and emotions have been in your head since the moment you woke up today

Most conversations nowadays start with the phrase "Hi, How are you?". If you think about it you will realise how wonderful this actually is. It's the willingness of one human to first hear and understand the physical, mental and emotional state of the otherone before talking about anything else. It is I believe one of the reasons why all human civilisations are getting this far. Because we do care about each other. We do care so much that before we share any thoughts we first want to make sure that the person in front of us is feeling really well.....right?

....wrong. Unfortunately, this is not the case. Well, at least most people do not consciously have that intention when they start a conversation with "How are you". Most people just use it to avoid silence or to go through the boring smalltalk that almost everybody finds unpleasant and annoying. I can't remember the last time I got a really honest answer to that question from someone I don't know that well. Some may even think that they are being polite by asking "How are you?"....Now some of you will come to realise that the opposite is actually the case. Asking your opponent about their state of mind without being really interested in it and aware of what you are asking is actually very unpolite. You are not only showing them that you aren't interested in how they feel but that you also don't really care so much about them as a human being. If you don't want to take the time or don't have the energy to have a deep emotional conversation that in some cases could take up all the time you planned for the interaction please don't ask "How are you". You are neither unpolite nor a bad person. You are also just a human. Everyone gets exhausted, none always has the time and energy for conversations like this. But when you state that question you have to mean it and also be ready for a long deep conversation. Please do not say it when you aren't ready, because this will make it so much harder for the person after you to connect with the other one. The more often your friend gets asked that question without the intention of someone being really eager to know how she or he feels the more he won't take this phrase seriously and the ciclye starts all over again.

I was doing this mistake for many years now and I have to apologize to everyone I did this to. I can't undo the feeling that I gave you. The feeling of not caring. However, I promise that from now on I will show you as much as possible that I do care. Since last Monday (19.10.2020) I haven't asked this question whenever I knew I don't have the time and energy for such a conversation. However, I realised that everytime I asked it my opponent didn't take the question that seriously adn this is totaly understandable. So, I got the idea to phrase the question in a more abstract way in order to make the person in front of me think more intense about the content and the meaning of the question itself. If you have a better idea or would like to know if this is working ask me in a week or two. Thank you so much for taking your precious time to read this post. It really means a lot to me.